Giving Love a Chance

We all have relationships that have been allowed to suffer over the years. All we do is allow that suffering to fester. Cold wars begin, fault finding starts, arguments ensue and finally we decide to walk out of it. And sometimes, that is perhaps the best thing to do. Because, maybe we need our space at that time. But can we continue to let that relationship suffer for the rest of our lives?

The interesting thing is that no matter how much we try to forget about such things, we don't. At the back of our mind, we know that there is someone out there with whom things have not really worked out. We try to console ourselves, of course, by pointing out why it couldn't and how it is the other person and not us who was responsible for the same. But the truth is that there is left a hole somewhere in our heart because we have allowed hate to take over love in our relationship with someone. 

The irony of our life is that there can be hatred only where there is love. Hatred is the exact opposite of love. And we can truly hate someone only if, at some point in our lives, we have loved that person. I know that it would be too extreme an example to give here but if you look at most of the murders that take place in your local region, they are murders of wives by husbands, lovers by lovers, friends by friends and so forth. Somebody was betrayed or someone took revenge for a hurt they were caused. 

But the point is why anyone would really care until, deep down, the person had some expectation from the other person. Some condition he had attached for the love to continue was broken somewhere and thus the anger. Thus the revenge. Thus the fight. 

Perhaps that is why there should not be any conditions in love. If you love, you love. Without any expectaions. Without any strings attached. No one ever claimed any throne of power by proving themselve right over another person's wrong. We always think that we are right. And, trust me, so does the other person. Because what we do is done basis what we have experienced over the years. It is basis the conditioning that we have been taken through over the years. And if we were in our opponent's shoes, we would have probably done the same thing.

I love this line from the song, 'Say Something' by Christina Aguilera in which she says,

"And I will swallow my pride

You are the one that I love..."

If we love someone, we need to swallow our pride. It is the most useless thing in the world, 'pride'. It has broken many friendships and relationships. And it should be nipped in the bud. When we love, it is easy to do so. All we have to do is to make an attempt and give love, unconditionally, a chance.